Terrible 3's!

I have always heard of the terrible 2's but I am shocked to find out about the terrible 3's. My sweet baby girl is 3 1/2 and she has some major attitude. She also is very particular about everything, the order things must be done in and they must be done just right. I am so happy that she has been potty trained for 4 months now. We practiced for 7 months to finally achieve full blown success. My mistake was introducing the potty seat that goes on top of the toilet. If we are out or at someone else's house she asks for her Dora seat. My second mistake was showing her two step stools and giving her the option of the old wooden one I used as a kid and her Minnie Mouse one. Of course a small child will need to use both! She has to use the old wooden one for the potty and the Minnie stool at the sink. Then there is bedtime routine, quiet TV time, brush teeth, read book, go potty AGAIN, turn off lamp, turn on sound machine and turn on butterfly that projects stars on the ceiling (must be done in that order) tuck in and have a quick conversation. That quick conversation is always too short for my little one. We have nights where I just have to say goodnight and deal with tears. Mornings can be tough. It is always a struggle to get dressed and put shoes, coats, hat and scarf on. So glad summer is coming. Then there is that moment when she waits at the top of the stairs to decide if she is ready to come down and get in the car. My little one loves to stop and smell the roses - or fresh air, listen for dogs in the neighborhood barking, watch for birds etc. On to the attitude, boy does my little one love to talk back. It is almost impossible to negotiate with a 3-year-old. Whether it is to bring her video game in the car or what to eat or how many bites to take before getting down from the table it's a struggle or argument. I hate having to offer bribes but sometimes it is the only way. Usually one piece of candy, a Hersey Kiss or DumDum, will do the trick. But how do you deal with tantrums? Screaming fits in the car the whole way to the babysitters because I denied her demand to bring the IPAD? Time-outs work wonders but when you need to get out the door in the morning there isn't time for time-outs. Just have to hold on to the joyous moments, hilarious moments and love for the little squirt. Last night when we were discussing a snack she told me that I should have the special flavor Goldfish and she will have the regular flavor Goldfish because the special flavor Goldfish will make her break out in hives. What? lol I have never told her anything will make her break out in hives. Luckily, we do not have any major food allergies in our house. My favorite is when she makes tooties! She thinks it is hilarious to pass gas. She loves to announce it. I usually comment with "Ewww stinky girl!" She replies with "I love making tooties. I tootie everywhere!" So the terrible 3's can be very difficult and push my patience to the edge but oh how I love my sweet angel!